True Lovers World

True love is desired by all humans on earth and because of the pressure to  find true love, so many people have ended up finding infatuation instead of true love. Though, it is kind of hard differentiating infatuation between true love, it is still an obvious fact that lots of people are infatuated than being in true love. In this true love and relationship advice post, I will try to differentiate between true love and infatuation. This effort by Dr.love is to help you understand the kind of relationship you are into-whether it is true love or infatuation, enjoy: I recommend you read 40 qualities of true love


True love takes time to mature while as infatuation matures quickly: any relationship that is built on true love usually takes time before the partners agree to go into love relationship. This is unlike infatuation where partners easily agree to go into relationship. This is why I keep saying that any relationship that comes easily breaks easily. Those that are difficult to come by are usually hard to separate. So, did you and your partner fall in love so easily?
True love does not have any tangible reason for falling in love while as infatuation is attracted base on something: what this means is that, partners in true love usually don't have any particular reason for falling for each other. If you ask them why they are in love, they will tell you that ‘they are just in love’. They hardly have any tangible reason for falling in love. While as infatuation tends to be attracted by something, especially something physical. Now, does your partner usually tell you that he/she loves you because you are beautiful/handsome or because you are tall or because you smart or because you are rich or because you intelligent, because you are so good at sex etc? Watch it out!!!!
It is because of the above mentioned factor that put the confusion on partners who are in relationship: most partners are in love because they tend to love each others’ unique attribute(s) yet they claim to be in true love, the worst part of it is that, you and your partner won’t even know that you both are attracted to each other because of each others’ unique attributes. The both of you will continue to be happy until one day.... It is allowed for partners to admire, adore and appreciate each others’ unique attributes but it is wrong for partners to love each other base on these unique attributes (Unique attributes means beauty, handsome, riches, intelligence etc). This is why most relationship break up any time partners loses such attributes that attracted the other person into the relationship.

True love is balance while as infatuation is one sided: majority of the relationship one finds these days are usually one sided. In true love, lovers love each on equal base. Any relationship in which one of the partners loves the other more, that relationship is under infatuation and is bound to collapse because any day, that person who is the driver of the relationship backslides, the relationship will definitely collapse. Partners must know that there are times lovers will not find each other too interesting, when that time comes, at least, the love from the other partner can restore and keep the relationship going.
True love does not rely on sex as the only mechanism to strengthen the relationship while as infatuation depends on sex for strength: this is very important. When you go through the biblical standard, sex is not good before marriage but if we go through the standard obtainable in the world today, I'm completely indifferent when it comes to sex in relationship: I don't have any opinion about it. All I can say is that sex in relationship depends on the partners. On this context of differentiating between true love and infatuation, I will strongly tell you that true love does not depend on sex for strength but infatuation do. Most partners who are infatuated tend to love each other the more each time they have sex and they are over passionate about sex in the relationship. Please, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that true lovers are not passionate about sex in the relationship, what I'm saying here is that sex or no sex in the relationship, any relationship built on true love will continue to flourish. Though, sex plays tremendous role in true love relationship.
True love enjoys great communication while as infatuation lacks good communication: true love partners communicate effectively in the relationship than infatuated lovers do. This is because true lovers in most cases were best of friends before they fail in love. They already understood each other before entering into the love world. This is not the case with infatuated lovers. Most infatuated lovers starts like this: the guy meets the lady, he likes the lady, he plan on how to get her by all means, he visits the Internet to search on how to get a woman to fall in love with you or he is already very knowledgeable about wooing any lady. He then woos the lady and the lady falls in love with him. These steps can also be played by a woman who sees the kind of man she adores. You can see that the two partners barely know each other too well not to talk of communicating effectively. Read lack of communication in relationship to learn more about communication in relationship.

Finally, infatuation usually suffers from excessiveness of everything in the relationship while true love is usually moderate in everything: Any relationship that is built on infatuation usually has some or all of these as characteristics; excessive jealousy, excessive protectionism, excessive quarrel or excessiveness of lack of quarrel (this means that the partners hardly quarrel), excessiveness of argument etc. I hope these points will serve its purpose which is to help you differentiate between true love and infatuation. Even if you are already in true love relationship, it will be nice of you to share this post with your friends on face book, twitter, Google+ etc so that they too can read, learn and also share it on line. True love is a wonderful thing but just a few of the world population gets to enjoy true love in one relationship or the other before they die. My true love and relationship blog is kin in helping you understand what true love is, how to find true love and also proffer solution to relationship problems. Please, help spread this post on line right away; it is not difficult to do. Thanks for reading.

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