Friday
"I just Don't Love My Husband!!"
Dear
Dr.love
I have
been married to my husband for a year now but the sad news is that I just don’t
love him!! I have never loved him and I doubt if I will ever do!! The reason is
due to the nature and circumstances with which I married him.
My
parents were struggling to make life worth living for me and my younger ones
and immediately I graduated from the university about a year and a half ago, I
was pushed into marriage with my current husband. I was made to understand that
he was the person funding my university fees and my mother threatened to kill
herself if I don’t pay back the reward by marrying my current husband.
I
became tired of the screaming and condemnation coming from my mother and
younger ones, I then decided to marry him. One year after our traditional and
church wedding, I’m yet to love him. The saddest of the news is that he made
love with me just three times since our wedding and in the 3 occassions, I was
just like a dead wood. I hated the fact he was on top of me! I hated his gifts,
I hated his care, his attentions and everything that comes from him. I’m yet to
be pregnant for him. I just wish we could divorce! I’m the saddest person on
earth and my husband doesn’t seem to bother about it, he continues to spend
money on my family.
See,
Dr.love, I seriously need your advice on this one before I run mad. I used to
fantasise about the type of man I will ever marry. I kept my body for that
special one and it hurts so much when those dreams and fantasies don’t come
true. It pained me that a man who doesn’t deserve my body had to eat from it. I
can’t imagine bearing babies for him. What do you think I should do? I turned
26 by February this year.
From
Dr.Love
My
dear, I sincerely understand how it really hurts to get married to someone you
really don’t love. I feel your pains and all I can tell you is: bear it and
move on! I want to ask you a question: have you made effort trying to love him?
I sincerely believe you haven’t and that is not good for your life journey. Marriage
is for better and for worse. You made that covenant together with him and it is
only death that can separate you both. I don’t advice couples to divorce
because it is not ethical from my own personal opinion and from the biblical
view point.
Open
your heart and accept him into your life. Understand that he has come to stay.
You had the opportunity of refusing the marriage but you gave it away based on
reasons which were beyond your handling (according to your writing) and now,
there is nothing you can do but to love and appreciate your husband. Forget
your fantasies and live with the reality. That man may turn out to be the best
thing that ever happened to you. I sincerely urge you my dear to learn to love,
live, accept and appreciate your husband.
If you
really read this post, kindly share and click ‘LIKE’. You may email me if you
have any relationship problems at: renacentanugwom@gmail.com
|
Get free daily email updates! |
Follow us! 
|
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
0 Responses to “"I just Don't Love My Husband!!"”
Post a Comment
Love to hear from you my friend