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How to find your perfect match

True love  (read how to find true love) is not all about what you are expecting to get but about what you can give. To me, love is synonymous to giving. I strongly believe in true love and when someone finds his/her perfect match, the person has found true love. It is when you are able to find your perfect match that your love life will turn positive, your relationship will benefit from it and you end up seeing the wonders of love (read 5 secrets to successful relationship). Though I admit that it's not easy to find your perfect match but many searched and they found.....you can as well, read on to learn how you too can find your perfect match..


Finding your perfect match is the most important search in your life time and spending quality time with that person should be the priority over other things.

Please, before I proceed, I will like to clarify you what I mean by ‘perfect match’. Perfect match does not mean that you shall meet someone who is flawless; it does not mean that you and your partner will never quarrel but it means that you meet a partner who is very compatible with you. Are you with me? You should search for compatibility and not perfection. When you find compatibility, you have found a perfect match.

1. You have to understand yourself first and know what you want:
It is usually harder to find your perfect match once you don't understand your self. I refer to those who don't know what they want in relationship as confused individuals and there are lots of them these days. I had several ladies who were close to me and there was this particular lady who wanted me by all means!!

After months of resistance, she hated me with passion!!! I continued moving on and when I met my partner, I knew I could live a better life with her and I went for her. Though, she was very difficult to get, I continued struggling. This was possible because I understand myself. I decided to forsake the already made and already available lady (my ex friend) and went for this one who gave me much difficult time.

Furthermore, understanding yourself and knowing who you are will make you go for someone of similar interests, hobbies and desire with you. One of the problems partners encounter in the course of their relationship is the issue of differences in interest. For example, it will someday become big problem if you love swimming and your partner loves hunting. Ask me why dear reader?

You may never like accompanying your partner to see or do his/her hubby (hubbies). It's a big blow to your relationship if your partner goes or does his/her hubbies with someone else outside of you. Sometimes, some people pretend to love the hubbies of their partners and on the long run, they get tired and bored. Please, there is the need for you to go for someone who shares similar interests, hubbies and passion with you.

This can only be achieved if you understand what you really want and like. For instance, if you love watching basket ball, you can find your perfect match at the basket ball stadium. In my case, I love reading and researching, this was why I met my own partner in the library and we both started reading together before we started going out.

The fact that we love similar things has made us to always love being around each other. Our relationship is very interesting that people around envy us. This is because we both knew what we wanted and what we can handle. This simply means understanding yourself.


2. Prepare a scale of preference when it comes to qualities you desire your partner to have
For you to find a perfect match, you have to prepare a scale of preference base on the qualities you desire from the partner you are looking for.

In my case, I have always counted faithfulness first, beauty second, romantic expression third, outfit fourth and finally, sex fifth. When I was still on a friend level with my partner, I discovered she was very faithful and she was very beautiful.

Since she met my first two qualities which I tagged most important qualities, I went for her. I knew she wasn't going to be good at romance and love expression but I was ready to teach her and now she is even better than me in these areas. Good for us!!!

You have to make your scale of preference and mark out the ones you desire most. Since no human being can have all the qualities you desire. Believe me, this is one big secret of finding a perfect match. This is why online dating websites uses match and interest to find partners for their members.

To portray how effective this method is, my partner later told me her own scale of preference two years after we started dating: humble and truthful first, handsome second, protective third, romantic forth, faithfulness fifth, caring sixth, and funny seventh. According to her, the first four are must have for her prospective partner.

She told me during one of our lovely discussions that I’m such a humble guy, very honest, handsome and very, very romantic. Now, she is happy with the choice she made and most times she thank God for us.

First, you have to know yourself and understand who you are and secondly, you have to prepare a scale of preference when it comes to qualities you desire your prospective partner to have. If you can follow these simple but very important steps towards finding your perfect match, your relationship will have reasons to say 'love is beautiful'. People are saying it so, why can't yours also say it? Know who you are which means that you have to discover your self and prepare a scale of preference before you meet your partner to be. You can help me promote this blog by sharing this post using any of the sharing icons below this post, like and tweet this post and comment on it....cheers readers

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