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How to ask a guy out: ladies, learn to go for what you want

The present society has made it a ‘sin’ or improper for a lady to ask a guy out. In fact, in some parts of Africa, a lady should not even desire a man not to talk of asking him out. As long as I'm concerned, I don't see anything wrong with a lady asking a guy she truly love  (read how to find true love) for a date neither is anything wrong for a lady to open up and confesses her love to the guy she in love with.
Some ladies allow their pretense to bury their love desire, their passion for someone and dream of ending up with their dream guy.

Most times, the preoccupied belief that a guy is the one who is meant to ask a lady out prevents some ladies from making the move. Yeah, I know and I know that our societal value may be against it but you can still change that if you so desire. You have your own world and aspirations; why not learn how to ask a guy out?
Stop giving guys the opportunity to always break your heart and learn to go for what you want just the way guys do also. It's very easy and fun to be the master of your own world and love life.

Guys have ways of seducing and getting the lady of their dream because once they see that lady they love, the next thing is to GO FOR HER. The lady may not really like the guy at the initial stage but with the guy's determination and hot pursuit, the lady may fall in love with the guy.

Ladies too can learn this skill and always get that guy of their dream to love them too. I know you may start telling me that once you make your love known to that guy, he leaves, snubs or laugh at you…..NO, NO, NO, NO and NO, the case is not always like that. You know that it's not always all the time a guy asks a lady out that he eventually gets her.

Guys also love to keep their integrity but they always go for what they want when it comes to ladies. Your question now may be how can you go about asking a guy out?

1. Be courageous
As lady, learn to be very courageous. I respect the courage of the first lady who asked me out some years ago. Are you surprised? Please don't be…The lady in question was my friend for few years and she was in love with me but I wasn't!! she called me up one evening and asked me for a date!! I agreed because she was my friend and when we got to the venue, she bought me a drink.

Then, after some few minutes, she held my hands and asked me to look at her eyes which I did. She then pleaded that we should date even if it's for just two weeks that I should give her the opportunity to love me. She started shedding tears as I said ‘I can't and insisted on it.

I don't have space to start talking about that here but all I’m trying to state here is that I respected and still respects her courage. You can be courageous, you never can tell, the guy may love you too.

2. Don't share your desire or intention with your fellow girl

This is right because most ladies may never understand what you feel for this particular guy and may end up discouraging you. I know of a lady who really desire a particular guy but didn't go for him because she felt the guy would come someday to ask her out but that has not happened yet. After 7 years of waiting, she is still waiting and also day dream and wishing to have the guy as her life partner. Hmmmmm, life can be funny….or what do you think dear reader? Her biggest discouragement came from her female friends..

3. Be his best friend
This can be helpful too. Make sure you start up as his friend, be very helpful to him and always make him happy before you eventually open up to him.

4. Take time to study him
We guys make lots of effort to study the lady we are seeking for and it really help us to eventually get her. You have to know a lot about him, study him by knowing his best mood, favourite music, hobbies, likes and dislikes etc. Lady, I hope you can do this…..

5. Be sure you are in love
You have to be sure that what you have is love and not infatuation so that you won't be heartbroken later.
read:
signs that you're in love,
differences between true love and infatuation,
signs of true love

6. Make it romantic
You have to be creative before asking a guy out. I can remember a lady who wanted to ask my cousin out sometimes last year. She had to make sure she recorded most of their moments together, the pictures they snapped together, some of their funny conversations etc. She compiled them together and made a video out of it with beautiful slide show and a sound track. Wow….It was really beautiful and very creative. I loved it. It will be hard for any true friend of any lady to say ‘NO’ to the lady after seeing such efforts and creativity. My cousin agreed and they are still dating and happier today. All I'm saying is that you have to be romantic by being creative.

I have come to end of this very long post. Don't be angry with me for this. I just want to help you to go for that guy you want. Lady, you have to bear in mind that no love story started at the same time between the two partners. I mean that two partners don't fall in love the same time: one of them have to carry the other along to also fall in love. It is easy, you can do it if you so desire. This post: how to ask a guy out, is still part of my relationship advice posts. Please, help promote this blog by first, ‘like’ this post, share this post with your friends on facebook, twitter etc and finally, comment on the post.

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