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Relationship advice for couples: ways to prevent break up

Relationship break up is common today because of several factors among them is prolonged quarrel. The real fact is that most of the prolonged quarrel between you and your partner could have been prevented. It is not bad if you and your partner quarrel, because there are some benefits in relationship conflicts, hope you know that. But it becomes very bad if you and your partner experience prolong quarrel which is not healthy for your relationship. This is because prolonged quarrel can lead to:
Emotional depression
heartbreak
Malice
Emotional pains
Verbal and sometimes physical abuse
relationship break up etc
I know you will never like any of these experiences. Now, let look at steps to follow in order to avoid prolong quarrel which could lead to break up between you and your partner:

1. Consider the relationship standard
Most times when couples quarrel they tend to seek advice from friends that will advice them wrongly. But the truth is that nobody knows your relationship more than you and your partner. The both of you have a standard which you both have set for the relationship. This is the reason you need not listen to anyone sometimes, but your heart in tackling your relationship problems. For instance, may be you and your partner has identified that talking on cell phone with the opposite sex partner is cheating and your partner caught you doing that. You then complain to the outsiders about it, they may not know that was the standard you both set for the relationship and as a result advice wrongly. This is why you need only to communicate with your partner about it than involving an outsider. Not even your mother or sister because one man’s meat may be another man’s poison. Relationship problems and solutions are relative in most times.
So it is not the way Mr and Mrs A reacts to a relationship problem that Mr and Mrs B will react to the same issue because of the standard of the relationship the both couples set for their relationship. So, you have to allow your heart to reflect on the problem and only judge your partner base on the standard the both of you set for the relationship. Are you with me?

2. Do not Analise what your partner said or did to you
I hope you are not among some of the partners who only remember and Analise what their partner did instead of analyzing or looking at what led to their partner's actions. This is one major thing that leads to prolong quarrel in a relationship. If you know you love your partner, you should try to understand that all he or she said and did when he or she was frustrated or angry with you or when he was under pressure shouldn't count. Do not think about those statements because it brings up evil taught of retaliation or malice keeping with your partner. And when he is calm you guys should makeup and forget anything ever happened. For instance, you might have hurt your partner and that action made him or her to be angry and do something very shocking to you, please, don't focus on what he or she did or said but focus on what led to his or her actions and put yourself in your partner's shoes.
3. Remember happy moments together
When you want to keep a prolong quarrel with your partner always remember the happy moments you shared together and forgive his or her wrong. Don't make the mistake others do by only remembering the bad times. Always bear it in mind that your relationship must experience bad times but do yourself a favor by diverting your mind to the good and happy moments you shared with your partner. You know that when he or she hurts you, what always come up in your mind is that your “partner is wicked, your partner is heartless, how could he or she do this thing to you etc” .Just pick up your pen and write down all the good and the bad moments you both have shared together and weigh them, if the good is more than the bad you makeup but if the bad is more than the good, know that it is the time to set things right with your partner.
4. Do not take any decision when you are angry
Any decision one takes during anger moment is usually the wrongest of all decisions. If you love your relationship and wish it to succeed then, you have to stop making decisions during your anger moments. I must confess that I was a victim of wrong decision some years back and I have learnt my lesions and I don't wish you do the same. If your partner hurts you and you become angry, just calm yourself down, sleep over your decision, weigh it and find out the implications of such decision to your life. Don't listen to that wicked spirit pushing you to break up or do something stupid. Make sure you smile before taking any decision or what so ever.
I hope this relationship advice was helpful. Steps to prevent prolong quarrel in your relationship is part of Drlove’s true love relationship advice post. If you have any problem or issue, just contact Drlove through my contact page. I remain Drlove and if you love  my blog, please, try and share this post on your face book, twitter, google plus profiles. If you love Drlove, please, promote this blog. If you and your partner can prevent quarrels from being prolonged then, you both are ready to prevent any major break up in the relationship.

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