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Should I marry a man who is 20 years older than me?
Tips for marrying an older man
This
was a question posed to me by one of my readers through my email. She asked me
if she can marry a man who is 20 years older than her. The truth remains that
it all depends on you as a person. I will talk about this topic by talking
about two different life experiences of two different couples which I heard of sometimes in the past.
There
were two lovers in South Africa. It happened in 2008. The issue was that the
lady just experienced heart break. The guy she invested so much on broke her heart! She was actually working in a company when that terrible experience
happened to her! 3 months after her unexpected heartbreak, an elderly man found
her!
The man claimed to be in love with her. She was 24 when she had the bad experience
while the man was 45 years old! Wow, that was 21 years difference. To cut the
long story short, the lady accepted to give the old man a chance and that was
it. She lived to tell the sweet story 5 years after. What a life! The guy who
shared this story with me said that the both couple got married and have
always been happy ever.
The
other story was about a lady who was in a serious relationship with a man who was 17
years older than her in Nigeria! She started going out with the man when she
was in the university in Nigeria. She met the guy in her 300 level as a Law
student! The bad news was that after 7 years of relationship with the man, she
found out last year that the man was married in another city! She was
demoralized with such terrible experience but that is life for you! sometimes, feelings can blindfold you, OPEN YOUR EYES!!!!
Now,
you can see from the two accounts that humans have different destinies. What
worked for you may not work for me. That is it. The simple truth here is that
once you have made up your mind to marry an older man who is about 20 years
older than you then, you have chosen your own path and should be responsible
for such choice.
Don’t
base your choice on what someone else has recorded because the issue of love
works relatively. You can only filter but not copy and paste. Are you with me? Let move on please:
Some important tips for going into relationship with a man far older than you:
1: Make
sure you love him too: don't base your love solely on the fact that he loves
you too much. Someday, that love may gradually go down. You get my point right?
2: Make
him your friend: this applies to all secrets to successful relationship
3: have
an open mind when it comes to issues about him
4: Be
proud of what you're doing, don't feel shy about it my dear. It's your life and not that of others. Are you getting my point?
5:
Communicate with him too: Read up How to communicate in your relationship for more tips on this.
6: Don't
see him as a father but see him as a partner If you see him as a father, you
may not fully express your love and sexual interest with him. Please, Read up; How to gain respect from your man for more tips on this issue.
7:
Reciprocate love to him too and even very well
8: Bear
in mind that love can come from any direction and it is a respecter of nothing
Well, I
sincerely wish this tips for marrying an older man is useful to you. Bear in
mind that marring or dating an older man is simply your choice. And you alone
can be responsible for that. You can seriously love a man who is far older than
you. I wish you all the best. Share this article with other ladies on facebook,
twitter etc. Thanks for reading and I will love to hear from you. Drop your comment below.
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