Wednesday
Religion vs Love War!
Recently,
I was opportune to get the full details of the end of a relationship I have
long envied simply because of religious faith. The two people I’m talking about
fail in love with each other about 3 years ago in the university somewhere in
Nigeria. (Read up: Signs you're in love and Signs of true love)
Little
description of the two lovers
About the guy
Now,
the guy happened to be a Christian, was in his early twenties, was a Libran and
was not into religions activities. According to him, there are differences
between a religious person and a Christian! He was a Libertarian and Conservative!
He loved to live life but in the most decent and responsible ways. He was an
easy going Christian too. The guy critically examines issues concerning
visions, dreams, miracles, revelations etc. This affected how he receives
issues concerning these aspect of Christianity.
About the lady
As
for the lady, she was a pure Libertarian, a Christian radical, a Churchy type
of person and a religious person. According to the lady, there isn’t much difference
between a religious person and a Christian so long the person is a Christian!
She believed in vision, dreams, miracles, revelations with intense passion etc This affected
how she reacted to issues concerning her Christian faith. As a result of this,
she easily believe any kind of vision, miracle, dream, revelation etc.
Their Religious differences
Considering
their different ways of reacting to Christian related issues, they both had
issues discussing topics concerning the Christian faith. For instance, the guy
doesn’t see the reason for Christians to always scream with very loud voice while
praying to God while the lady in question believed that Christians must
pray with loud voice before they can be heard! This brought them problems so
many instances.
Again,
the guy believed that the inner appearance is more important to God than the
physical appearance noting that God cares more of the inner being than the
physical being. According to him, people should not be judged because of their
physical appearance. This is not the case with lady who believed that the
physical appearance is very important too and matters so much. That people can
be judged from their physical appearance. There were so many other areas they
both differ when it comes to Christian faith especially in the area of heaven
and hell!
About
their Love Story
As
I said initially, they met 3 years ago in the university and fail in love.
Their love story was so strong and they were envied by too many people who knew
them! They loved spending time together. In fact, they spent about 95% of their
daily lives together: you can imagine the level of togetherness they might have
reached. They were always seen together. They were completely faithful to each
other. They easily exchanged gifts, love text messages, love letters, love poems etc to each other. They planned to get married and really worked towards
it.
What
shocked me the most about them was that they entered the relationship as
virgins and came out as virgins! What this means is that they never had sexual
intercourse during their relationship experience together and they spent time
together more! Wow, I must confess that they really tried. The issue here is
that the guy actually wished he had sexual intercourse with the lady he loved
so much but the lady refused. The guy couldn’t cheat on her because he loved
her. We know that it must have been more difficult for the guy coping than the
lady. Well, you know how Nigerian ladies relate the ability for a man to comply
to ‘no sex’ until marriage with signs that he loves you. As a man, I know how
difficult this law is over here. You can see that their love story is very
interesting.
What
led to their break up
It
all started after almost three years of their relationship when the lady
decided to stop wearing ear rings and fixing artificial hairs. She said they
were sinful and she decided to stop doing so! Now, the guy rejected the new
fashion choice of the lady saying that fixing wig and wearing ear rings doesn’t
count as Christian that what really counts is how you use them, for what
purpose, if you rate them above your God, if you can’t live without them etc
but the lady didn’t buy the idea. The guy loved good and sexy fashion in
decent and respectful appearance.
The
lady’s mother was completely against her new choice of fashion and even her
family members. No one supported her but she still chose to go with her
decisions. It got to a point, the guy accepted that the lady should pause her
new fashion choice until when they are both long married in the future but she
refused! They had no choice but to call it a quit!!!
The lady was like if he truly loved her, he would have stayed! The guy was like
if she wasn’t selfish, she would have considered his 3 years of no sex
sacrifice to drop her new fashion choice. They both ended their lovely
relationship simply because of religious confusion. As for me, I completely
don’t buy the idea that wearing ear ring is sinful or fixing decent hairstyle
is sinful. I think it is out of religious confusion most Africans have found
themselves that this nonsense happened. I’m sure that so many people have
similar story too where religion battled with true love and defeated it. They
both needed happiness but searched for it in the most difficult way. It is
always painful when compromise and sacrifices are unit directional in love
relationship. The best part is when they are two-way directional. I strongly
believe that the guy felt he must have given so much to proof to the lady that
he was for real. I believe that he felt that the lady’s decision wasn’t worth
it since he never bought the idea of a complete Christian conservative. The
lady on the other hand was like the normal Nigerian Christian Conservatives who
are always saying: ‘if he loves me, he will live with my decisions and respect
them.
Well,
that ended the beautiful love story from two lovely people. I hope and I pray
they later realize they got it all wrong early enough to get back together but
if they don’t, I wish them happiness with their future respective partners.
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