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Characteristics of true love ii

Welcome to series ii of the characteristics of true love, today, I will be writing about jealousy and possession as characteristics of true love.
Jealousy leads to possession and as long as you are in love for real, you will be bound by these two factors-jealousy and possession. When one is in true love, one tends to be jealous and very possessive. Well some people don’t like it especially ladies. You hear them make statements such as ‘one thing I don’t like about him is that he is too possessive and too jealous’. Just know that because he loves you, he will be jealous and possessive. That is why he won’t be jealous or possessive of another lady but you and you alone, that is fact about true love and positive use of jealous and possession can help add strength to a growing love relationship



Even ladies are also into this but it is normal, there is no crime being jealous and possessive for God’s sake. Even your Maker is a jealous God simply because He loves you. These two words- jealousy and possession have caused so many problems in relationships. This is because is either the lady is not comfortable with it or the guy is not or either of them claims to be free and should be as long as they are not married yet. You will hear some couples complaining that they want to share time with their friends some of them make statements such as; ‘he is just my friend and there is nothing wrong spending time with him’ or ‘she is just my friend and there is nothing wrong spending time with her’ look, there is something wrong with that. This is because your partner may be jealous and do you also know that jealousy hurts so much? There is something also wrong because your so called friend may start to develop feelings for you or even you may start having feelings for that friend of yours because we are all humans and should never trust ourselves so, prevent it than cure it. Even the bible told us to ‘flee’. Are you with me?


I suggest that your lover should also be your best friend. Well, I thought I was the only person with this point of view but I also saw another relationship expert saying the same thing. If your lover is the same person as your best friend, you both will have less serious problems in the relationship. This is why I recommend that for every true love to last, it should start from ordinary friendship.
Another suggestion is that you should respect your partner’s feelings. If your partner is saying that he or she is jealous of certain things please, why not put an end to them. Some people are even jealous of their partner spending too much time with the same sex. This is why I say they should see each other as best of friends. Remember that if you love him or her, you won’t be happy to see him or her pass through emotional pains. Make your partner your best friend and share your feelings together, play with your partner, spend more quality time with that your partner and remember to communicate and express. If you have not read my post on communication and expression in relationship;lack of communication in relationship, poor expression of feelings in relationship

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2 Responses to “Characteristics of true love ii”

Jide Ogunsanya said...
11 January 2012 at 01:34

Great article there but don't you think been over jealous can be so dangerous atimes?


Unknown said...
19 January 2012 at 09:38

yes you are right, I never said it should be over but I just want to inform lovers out there not to get pissed off because of it because it is also part of love experience. all the sane, lovers should learn on how to control their jealousy rate and also how to accept it. thanks for your comments.


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