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Cheating in Relationship
What
constitute cheat in relationship remains a matter of debate all over the world
because what may mean cheating in my own relationship may not really be tagged as cheating in
your own relationship. Cheating has different meaning attached to it by different
partners. What matters is that you and your partner have lay down rules that
must be adhered to by the two of you. Any defiance of such lay down rules
guiding the relationship means cheating on the other partner.
As
long as I'm concerned, there are 3 types of cheating in any relationship but
what matters is how these cheating are seen or perceived by the partners
involved. The 3 types of cheating that I have discovered so far are:
Physical
cheating, Emotional cheating and Sexual cheating. I will take them one after
the other and discuss on them:
1. Physical
Cheating:
When
you talk about physical cheating, you are making reference to those activities
that are carried out in the physical frame which are not acceptable by the
other partner in the relationship. Physical cheating in most cases don’t have
atom of emotions attached to it but with time, it may develop to emotional
cheating. For example, hugging of another partner may be cheating on your own
partner, pecking another person, staying late with another person, dancing,
spending more of your mobile phone air time with another person etc. Now,
physical cheating is the most varied form of relationship cheating because some
people may not see anything wrong with hugging another person especially the opposite
sex while some people takes that to be cheating or breaking the rule.
In
some relationships, you can only hug someone with your side view and not your
full view. Whenever any of the partners hugs with his/her complete view, it
becomes cheating. I recommend that partners really talk about what they refer
to as physical cheating and agree on certain rules which will help guide the
relationship.
Some
people may not find it funny if their partner pecks someone else or receive peck
from an opposite sex while some people don't really see it as anything.
2. Emotional
cheating:
Emotional
cheating in most cases graduates from physical cheating and this particular
form of cheating does not have wide variation when compared with physical
cheating. Emotional cheating occurs when one partner involves his/her emotional attachemnt
more with another partner who is not his/her own partner. Some people who are
involved in such relationship cheating are always defending themselves by claiming
that they aren't having sex with the person in question.
Example
of emotional cheating are: Double dating, or involving in extra marital affairs
which does not involve sex, phone dating, online dating, sms sex chat, phone
sex, saying ‘I love you’ to another person who is not your partner (when you mean it. Please, I don’t
mean platonic love), having emotional connection with someone else, thinking
about having affair with someone, day dreaming about someone else, lost for
someone else, having emotional time shared with someone else, etc. Some popular
form of emotional cheating in the present world are online dating, sms love
chatting, phone sex, sex chat and double dating. The people involved hardly
feel guilty simply because sex is not involved but the truth remains that you
have cheated on your partner.
3. Sexual
cheating:
The
sexual aspect of cheating is unarguably considered as relationship cheat any where in the world. When
you start having sex with someone who is not your partner then, you are guilty
of cheating on your partner sexually. I can't do much of talking on this particular type
of cheating because you already know much about it. I have some few things to clear
to you: If your partner cheats on you sexually and you decide to have sex with
another person in retaliation then, you are as guilty as your partner. The only time
sexual activities outside that of your partner may not be considered cheating
is when your partner permits it and he/she is aware of it and gave you the go ahead. Mind you, in some religion, it is still cheating and also a sin, for example in Christianity. But base on people's judgment, if your partner agrees that you can have sex outside the relationship then, you are not cheating on him/her.
Sexual
cheating is the combination of both physical and emotional cheating and remains
the most devastating relationship cheat ever. It is very difficult to heal the
damages caused by sexual cheating than any other form of cheating in relationship. Building trust after sexual cheating is extremely difficult (Read how to rebuild a damaged trust in your relationship) and in most cases, sexual
cheating results in heart break and then, break up (read 5 reasons you don't have to break up with your partner). Which ever way, cheating in relationship is not good. I urge you to kindly share
this post with your friends online.
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