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Respecting a man’s Space in relationship!


How to give your man his needed space...


How to give your man the balanced space in your relationship

You have to allow your man to go some where to do critical thinking.


Space is very important in every relationship especially in committed relationship or in marriage. It is obvious that men need more space than most women in love relationships. The issue of space has caused severe problems in most relationships. The issue is that most people don’t know how to balance space in relationships. Is either they are over giving space or they are under giving space. As for men, they need space to think, reason, grow, adjust, balance their mental functions, initiate and able to counter physical pressures.


It is very important for ladies out there who are truly in love to understand this topic because not having full wisdom on the issue of space management can breakup your relationship. According to Cat Saunders: “No woman I know has even been truly satisfied with either the sensitive-but-wimpy "New Age" male or the hunky-but-oblivious macho man. Balance is where it's at.”

Women have issues with attention and lack of it has caused many relationship problems especially cheating in relationship. This calls space balancing in your relationship because if you do n’t balance it, you will always assume that your man does not love you as much as you do. I strongly believe that very serious minded men love to balance love with their personal engagements, no wonder Cat Saunders went further to wonder. She expressed her amazement about women as thus: “I wonder if women sometimes choose abusive men over sensitive men because abusive men's passion, however misguided, is still alive. For men to reclaim the "wild man" (to use Robert Bly's term) and still retain their sensitivity is an exciting prospect.”

Except you need a play boy or a player, you may never have the kind of attentions you need from your man. Except you need a player, you may never have the kind of romantic adventure, expression and tips you desire strongly from your man (I believe you don't want to date a player, right ? Find out if you're dating a player). Serious minded men tries to be discipline and calm towards handling relationship issues including romance and playing love. No wonder John Lee says thus: “If a man can be given the time, support, and safety he needs to get to know and understand himself, he will heal.” Giving your man space also helps him to grow. Below are some very important steps on how to give your man his deserved space:

1. Understand the nature of your man’s job/profession
In one of my newest posts titled: understanding and love, I wrote about this too. When you really understand the nature of your man’s job/profession, you can begin to see how and when he really needs space.

2.  Know where your man is coming from and where he is heading to:
I believe that a reasonable and more mature lady will try as much as possible to support her man’s goals and dreams. I believe that the most important role a woman plays in the life of her man is supportive role (read your role as a woman in your relationship). When you understand where your man is coming from and where he is heading to, you will begin to understand his short term and long term goals then, you will begin to differentiate reality from fantasy.

3. Get busy!
A very important aspect of giving your man his deserved space is for you to get busy. Those women who are house wives shouldn’t give the excuse of not having anything to do as the reason they are choking their husbands. They can always engage themselves. Find something doing woman.

4. Don’t over do it, don’t get too independent, don’t act as if you don’t care, don’t get too much friends, don’t over engage yourself with home movies etc. The summary of my last point is simply for you to balance. Most women are guilty of over doing the spacing in their relationship which has pushed their male partners cheating on them. I have seen sites where frustrated ladies all in the name of hitting back on men offer useless advices to women: telling women to act as if they don’t care. That such behaviour will bring your man back to you-fallacy at the highest level! I remember that Plato told us to balance whatever we are doing in his teachings on Ethics. As a make your man feel you still depend on him to some extent, give him time when necessary and don't allow frustration to determine how you give your man space in the relationship.  

Well, another very long article again. Hope this post will help you properly and effectively give your man his deserved space and also respect his needed space in the relationship. Like, share and comment on this post and others here. If you care to read more about Cat  Saunders' works, read Respecting a man's space 


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1 Responses to “Respecting a man’s Space in relationship!”

Creg said...
31 August 2013 at 01:18

Nice article. I like the post.


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