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Respecting a man’s Space in relationship!
How to give your man his needed space...
How to give your man the balanced space in your relationship
You have to allow your man to go some where to do critical thinking.
Space
is very important in every relationship especially in committed relationship or
in marriage. It is obvious that men need more space than most women in love
relationships. The issue of space has caused severe problems in most
relationships. The issue is that most people don’t know how to balance space in
relationships. Is either they are over giving space or they are under giving
space. As for men, they need space to think, reason, grow, adjust, balance
their mental functions, initiate and able to counter physical pressures.
It is
very important for ladies out there who are truly in love to understand this
topic because not having full wisdom on the issue of space management can breakup your relationship. According to Cat Saunders: “No woman I know has even been
truly satisfied with either the sensitive-but-wimpy "New Age" male or
the hunky-but-oblivious macho man. Balance is where it's at.”
Women have issues
with attention and lack of it has caused many relationship problems especially
cheating in relationship. This calls space balancing in your relationship because
if you do n’t balance it, you will always assume that your man does not love you
as much as you do. I strongly believe that very serious minded men love to
balance love with their personal engagements, no wonder Cat Saunders went
further to wonder. She expressed her amazement about women as thus: “I wonder if
women sometimes choose abusive men over sensitive men because abusive men's
passion, however misguided, is still alive. For men to reclaim the "wild
man" (to use Robert Bly's term) and still retain their sensitivity is an
exciting prospect.”
Except
you need a play boy or a player, you may never have the kind of attentions you
need from your man. Except you need a player, you may never have the kind of
romantic adventure, expression and tips you desire strongly from your man (I believe you don't want to date a player, right ? Find out if you're dating a player).
Serious minded men tries to be discipline and calm towards handling relationship
issues including romance and playing love. No wonder John Lee says thus: “If a
man can be given the time, support, and safety he needs to get to know and understand
himself, he will heal.” Giving your man space also helps him to grow. Below are
some very important steps on how to give your man his deserved space:
1.
Understand the nature of your man’s job/profession
In one
of my newest posts titled: understanding and love, I wrote about this too. When
you really understand the nature of your man’s job/profession, you can begin to
see how and when he really needs space.
2. Know where your man is coming from and where
he is heading to:
I believe
that a reasonable and more mature lady will try as much as possible to support
her man’s goals and dreams. I believe that the most important role a woman
plays in the life of her man is supportive role (read your role as a woman in your relationship). When you understand where your
man is coming from and where he is heading to, you will begin to understand his
short term and long term goals then, you will begin to differentiate reality
from fantasy.
3. Get
busy!
A very
important aspect of giving your man his deserved space is for you to get busy.
Those women who are house wives shouldn’t give the excuse of not having
anything to do as the reason they are choking their husbands. They can always
engage themselves. Find something doing woman.
4. Don’t
over do it, don’t get too independent, don’t act as if you don’t care, don’t
get too much friends, don’t over engage yourself with home movies etc. The
summary of my last point is simply for you to balance. Most women are guilty of
over doing the spacing in their relationship which has pushed their male
partners cheating on them. I have seen sites where frustrated ladies all in the
name of hitting back on men offer useless advices to women: telling women to act
as if they don’t care. That such behaviour will bring your man back to you-fallacy
at the highest level! I remember that Plato told us to balance whatever we are
doing in his teachings on Ethics. As a make your man feel you still depend on him to some extent, give him time when necessary and don't allow frustration to determine how you give your man space in the relationship.
Well,
another very long article again. Hope this post will help you properly and
effectively give your man his deserved space and also respect his needed space
in the relationship. Like, share and comment on this post and others here. If you care to read more about Cat
Saunders' works, read Respecting a man's space
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1 Responses to “Respecting a man’s Space in relationship!”
31 August 2013 at 01:18
Nice article. I like the post.
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