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Why most Relationships don’t work out part 2
This
post is the continuation of the last post on why most relationships don’t work
out. In the first part of this post: why most relationships don’t work out, I
mentioned three points (read, why most relationships don’t work out) so, you
can understand what I was talking about. In this post, the following are some
of the reasons most relationships don’t work out:
4.
Selfishness and Bias mindset
Human
beings are loaded and governed by selfishness and bias mindset. In fact, this
is what I strongly believe is the major reason most relationships don’t work
out. Everyone has something to protect. This is why people usually say: “after
all I did for him/her…” immediately they broke up. No one wants to be selfless
and everyone wants to portray arguments to suit his/her own taste.
No one
is willing to give up his/her own personal gains and everyone is looking at how
to act in their relationships so that they will not stand to lose everything at
the end of it. This mindset already means that such relationship will not work
out. While solving relationship problems or issues, the parties involve since
they are humans will surely put the argument to favour them.
This was why I
said in the beginning of why most relationship don’t work out (part1), that: “no
one wants to take the blame…” People will know the logic behind a major
relationship problem but they will still try to turn the table around to suit
them. Selfishness and bias mindset are killing most relationships of today.
5.
Modernization
I also
believe that the concept of modernization has really killed many relationships.
People are no longer obeying the real principle of love relationship. Most
people just want to join the majority. That is the concept of spiral of silence
theory. It is killing us, it is killing our relationship. The way God made man
and woman, He designed the both in a special way to function in certain ways,
but what we now see is that most women are now doing what men are meant to do
and most men are now playing the role of women or the both genders are
combining the two roles to the extreme.
Some ladies calls it exposure but I see
it as destruction. They call it right but I call it deceit! Modernization has
redefined the way we think and act towards each other. Cheating in relationship
is now a common thing. Have you wondered why those in the past enjoyed more
stable and cheating free relationships than we are experiencing in the so
called modern world.
As for
me, what we call modernization is nothing but suffering. Just very few people
understand the real basis and those few are the ones enjoying successful
relationships.
6. Religion
Humans
are still battling with the concept of religion. Humans find it very difficult
to obey most of the religious principles. For instance, most religion forbid
pre-marital sex between two couple who aren't married yet but in some situations, the two parties may
really love each other but the principles guiding their religious practice deny
them of fully expressing their love for each other and this in most situations break
them apart. Till date, humans still struggle between the flesh and the spirit
being-two opposing entities!
7.
Economic situation
The
present economic situation is killing many relationships. Most women are now
marrying money. Many ladies never married whom they really wished to marry
simply because the guy couldn’t meet up on time or the lady felt she couldn’t
wait any longer. In the past when the economy was friendlier, men succeeded
faster than now. The cost of managing love relationship is becoming more and more
expensive every day.
8.
Marriage business
In most
African countries for instance in Nigeria, marriage is now a means through
which people make cash and the victims spend lots of cash. You see, in most
part of Nigeria, the cost of embarking into marriage is too high and most men can’t
really meet up and those who found each other in maybe in colleges end up not
marrying. What does this mean? It simply means that relationships are crashing
to a point where almost everybody in the world will finally say: “love does not
exist.”
I hope
you gained from this post: why most relationships don’t work out. I wish you
all the best in your various relationships. Try and remove selfishness and bias
judgment in your relationship, remove materialism and focus on love for each
other, forget the concept of societal status, appreciate what you have and do
with it, give it all, apologize when you wrong and even if you didn’t wrong
your partner. I think with all these, you are likely going to make your
relationship work out.
Thanks
for reading, please, kindly LIKE and share this post and if you have anything
to say: kindly comment below.
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2 Responses to “Why most Relationships don’t work out part 2”
1 May 2013 at 09:20
http://nationette.hubpages.com/hub/Things-to-do-to-keep-your-mind-off-a-break-up
10 October 2013 at 01:32
thanks for sharing with us.
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